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Seniors in Joliet are never too old for romance

Senior Romance in Shorewood, Joliet, Plainfield, Channahon, Crest Hill, Minooka, Naperville, Morris, Aurora, Lockport at the Timbers of ShorewoodPuppy love. Young love. Mature love. It never really ends, does it? All people have the desire for companionship and intimacy, and that does not exclude people in their 70s, 80s or 90s. In affairs of the heart, age hardly matters.

Single seniors enjoy making sociable connections just as the younger generation. Now, do these seniors want to go to bars and rock concerts? – Probably not, but there are many activities to enjoy. Some seniors are looking for meaningful friendships and not necessarily marriage. Others definitely are seeking marriage.

According to Ruth Purple, relatioinship coach, in her article, “Single Seniors – Never Too Old for Romance,” common obstacles are adult children who can be unforgiving if the widowed parent moves on after a separation, especially after a parent’s death. Others find it difficult to understand that their parents have the same feelings and needs as they do, while some react out of a need to protect their parent from being taken advantage of.

“However, it is still the seniors’ prerogative whether it is the right time for them to move on or not,” Purple said.

A vast number of seniors date for companionship and to fill emptiness in their lives. This is normal, and should be respected. Seniors have as much rights as the younger individuals when it comes to dating.

Making some interesting points is Helen E. Fisher, PhD, biological anthropologist and a member of the Center for Human Evolutionary Studies in the anthropology department of Rutgers University:

“Senior dating is often a good deal like junior dating—full of excitement, angst, euphoria when it goes well, and despair when things fail,” Dr. Fisher said. “Perhaps the most interesting thing about senior dating is that now, people are living long enough to do it. Additionally, they aren’t living with their children and grandchildren, so they have the opportunity to do it.”

Heretofore, the biggest obstacle to senior dating is the misconception that dating is only for the younger generation. It’s as if “society” frowns on the very notion and considers seniors just too old to even think of romance.

The internet is changing all that. There are senior dating sites that make the process much, much easier. In addition, senior groups hold charity events, dances and other activities at which like-minded people can meet and enjoy good times while getting to know each other. Churches also have singles groups for specific age ranges with activities based on age and interests.

“The world of dating and marriage has changed more in the past 50 years than in the past 5,000, due largely to the entry of women into the paid labor force,” Dr. Fisher said. “We are returning to a social life style that is very similar to life as it was in hunting and gathering societies, before people settled down on the farm and marriage codes became much more rigid.”

One thing’s for sure. Mature dating is much more a state of mind than a date of birth.

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